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Love Yourself

‘You will never look like that girl in the magazine. Hell, the girl in the magazine doesn’t even look like the girl in the magazine’

Body image is absolutely everywhere. On the streets, in the magazines, on the TV.. you can’t really escape from it. The harsh expectation that girls should all have flat stomachs, a thigh gap and fit in to size 0 clothes is haunting us in every direction. I’ve never been a really small, petite girl and I never will be, my body just is not built that way. I’ve also never particularly thought myself as fat, either. In the past, luckily I’ve never had any major problems with my weight. I wasn’t ‘skinny’, I wasn’t ‘fat’ – I was just an average size for a teenage girl (or so I thought until my wii fit told me I was overweight. Damn thing hasn’t been out in years since..).

Like a lot of people, I’ve had the odd passing comment about my weight which never really bothered me until recently. Don’t get me wrong, I still don’t look at myself and ‘God Sarah, you’re huge!’, but I have been putting on weight for the past few months which is starting to eat away at me. Tonight, I start the gym which is something I’ve been wanting to do for a while but I’ve never really had the confidence. Okay rewind, confidence to go to the gym?! That sounds quite silly. I used to do loads of exercise up until starting a full-time job and now that I don’t do as much I just feel like I’m going to stand out like a sore thumb when everyone’s easily working out with their amazing bodies and I’m struggling to reach 200 steps on the walking machine (okay a little exaggerated.. but you get where I’m coming from).

It suddenly dawned on me on holiday (a hen party weekend) that I was the least body confident I have ever been. I was suddenly the girl who didn’t want to get into her bikini because she felt too big for it so spent the day covered up instead. Er, who is this girl?! And where did these expectations come from.. not cool! I’ve never moaned about weight, I think it’s quite a hit and miss subject because if you hate your body you’re ‘attention seeking’ and if you love your body you’re ‘self absorbed’ – ugh what a load of crap.

Love Yourself - teaching girls

Small reminder that whether you’re a size 6 or a size 14, you’re beautiful. Wear what you want, eat what you want, exercise as much as you want. If you’re feeling confident within yourself, you’re winning at life. If you’re not feeling confident? There’s tonnes of time to change that. Whether it’s starting the gym, starting a new hobby, eating healthier, you’ve got this. YOU have all the control in the world over your body and what it looks like. Find that body you’re confident in and love the hell out of it.

Much love,

S x

 

32 thoughts on “Love Yourself

  1. Aww I love this message. I hate being magazines and feeling inadequate, in fact they never make me feel good so i've ditched them all together. Sometimes family can be the cruelest without realising, sometimes my mum will make a passing remark at me having gained weight and I'll take a step back, hold up, I hadn't even noticed, and now I feel rubbish! We have this idea of health shoved down our throats, that health and beauty comes with being skinny and that mentality is so hard to get out of. For me it changes on the daily, one day I'm up and confident, I'll be wearing that crop top and those tight jeans, the next I'll want to hide under a potato sack. I wish there were more body shapes in the media and in advertising, so women (and men) can see people of all shapes and sizes being told that they're beautiful. Not just the one size fits all. Sorry about the rant, haha it got a bit close to my heart just then x

    Sophia x http://sophiawhitham.co.uk

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  2. Awesome post, I'll never have a perfect body like the photoshopped magazine pictures, but that's alright because everyone is different and i'm relatively happy with the way I look and the things I don't like, I work on changing them. Like I hated my teeth so now I have a brace. I really do think this subject needs to be talked about more openly.
    HAYLEY ♥ Wear A Halo

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  3. I always struggle with body confidence – always have done – and I'm with you on needing confidence to exercise. I go swimming, but I'd love to take up running too, but like you I feel I need confidence to do it. I'm too embarrassed about people seeing my wobbly bits! Xx

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  4. We always need a reminder of this once in a while, truly, I just pay attention to taking care of my body. I don't care what the scale says, I just stay consistent with the gym and taking care of my self, and I feel good!

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  5. I love this post so much! I've been struggling a lot recently since putting on a bit of weight and my clothes getting tighter, but it's so true that we shouldn't base our worth on this!
    Claire xo

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  6. Great post! Wii Fit is a pain, i think it just likes to offend people!!lol
    I love your wee saying! 'If you're feeling confident, you're winning at life!' So true!
    PaleGirlRambling xo

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  7. This is a lovely post, such a great message as well! Being a size 10/12 who's not skinny or curvy I struggle with image a little, not cute and petite for cute outfits and not curvy enough to flaunt a figure. But I totally agree that we should ignore others and just roll with what we've got! 🙂

    sophieannetaylor.com

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  8. I think you hit the nail on the head here when you say that those who love their body are shamed for doing it, but that those who hate themselves are shamed equally for “attention seeking”! I find these attitudes so frustrating, and it is posts like these that really work to battle those unfair comments and judgements! Your message at the end, that everyone has the power to make their body what they want it to be, is a really powerful one! thank you so much for sharing!

    Abbey 😍 http://www.abbeylouisarose.co.uk

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  9. This is such a great post! It's so true that we are constantly told to look a certain way but we should be more confident and positive in ourselves! – Jade xx

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  10. This is so important! I love this, we need to stop teaching ourselves that we aren't enough and focus on uplifting ourselves and really and truly loving who we are!! Great post girl xx

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  11. This post is so important. We've all had moments of self-doubt but you put it very well when you say “If you're feeling confident within yourself, you're winning at life.” Everyone needs to take that to heart. ♥

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  12. This is a great post with a great message. We need to learn to love ourselves wherever we are in our journey. Don't necessarily like where you are at now? Love yourself while improving on it and changing what you feel you need to change! There is nothing wrong with loving yourself now while also starting a new workout routine or focusing on eating healthier!

    Britt | http://alternativelyspeaking.ca/

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  13. Love the message in this post, I'm someone who has struggled with body image and it used to get me so down in the dumps, but recently I've really changed my attitude and as you rightly say, there's so many things that can be done to improve self confidence. Thanks for sharing!

    – Ruminvte xo

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